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Waiting to Exhale

March 8, 2023March 7, 2023 Cynthia

We all get stuck sometimes. Anticipating loss can make current grief even more destabilizing, but a little rehab and a few deep breaths can help.

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Gratitude and Frustration

December 2, 2022December 2, 2022 Cynthia

Gratitude, anticipation and frustration co-exist in this thing we call life. How do you balance the three? Somedays, not very well!

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Cancer Dream State

November 1, 2022November 1, 2022 Cynthia

Like an interrupted dream, that sensation of missing some vague yet desirable and unattainable past applies to cancer too.

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September Blues

September 8, 2022September 7, 2022 Cynthia

The sky may be blue today, but don't count on it for tomorrow. Like the weather, life is unpredictable and beyond our control.

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Time and Again

August 4, 2022August 4, 2022 Cynthia

Remember, when we were kids, and summer stretched before us like an endless amount of time? When we had time to be bored and wonder how to make the hours pass until the ice cream truck would come? Instead, these days, I find myself wondering how it can be August already, where the summer went… Continue reading Time and Again

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The End of Planning

May 12, 2022August 15, 2022 Cynthia

Coping with cancer is hard. Life means constantly adapting to change, and some days, that's easier than others, regardless of the soundtrack. Whatever happened to being able to plan?

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Listen to the MockingBird

April 22, 2022April 22, 2022 Cynthia

Like the mockingbird, we all need to try on different tunes in the search for resilience after a cancer diagnosis.

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Sound of Silence

March 25, 2022March 23, 2022 Cynthia

Reminding myself to listen to the sound of silence helps me be the supportive friend and mentor I want to be to those struggling with loss and grief.

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Onward

February 11, 2022February 11, 2022 Cynthia

Nothing is normal after cancer or Covid, but maybe, just maybe, we can begin to move on...

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Still Grieving

January 19, 2022January 17, 2022 Cynthia

Anger is a natural part of grief, but that doesn't mean it is expected or easily dismissed.

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Caramelizing Onions

December 15, 2021December 15, 2021 Cynthia

Grief is a lot like onions. It makes your eyes sting and tear, even if you think this time, you will have it under control. But with the right amount of heat and time, you can bring out the sweetness and mellow the sting.

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Closet Treasures

October 6, 2021February 17, 2022 Cynthia

Where do you find the strength you need to cope with cancer? Often, we have treasures hidden in the back of the closet we forget we own that just might help.

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Nurturing a Seed of Hope

September 15, 2021September 14, 2021 Cynthia

We can’t all bloom at the same time, and every one of us, like every plant in the yard, needs a period of rest and recovery before we can flash our colors again.

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Cancer Vacation

September 1, 2021September 1, 2021 Cynthia

Cancer never takes a vacation, but if we are lucky enough, we can take a much needed vacation from cancer.

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The Right Thing to Say

July 29, 2021July 29, 2021 Cynthia

Knowing what to say is hard when nothing you say can possibly ease the heartache

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Something to Celebrate?

June 5, 2021June 5, 2021 Cynthia

Once you hear the words, "You've got cancer" you are considered a survivor. But is that the best way to describe how you feel?

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Everyone is Looking For Something

April 21, 2021October 23, 2021 Cynthia

Cancer, Covid and the search for control as life becomes unmanageable.

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A Blanket of Snow

March 3, 2021February 28, 2021 Cynthia

Like the mementos of life hidden beneath a blanket of snow, a patient's veneer of strength may be hiding more complex emotions.

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